Just Us

This is a blog about Jeetu & myself...i know that seems so narcissist, but really - it just feels so good to write about "us"! We've been married for over a year now (D-day: 8th April, 2004), but we still have individual hysterical moments of 'i can't BELIEVE we're married' We're currently living in Hyderabad, India (pretty far from our friends & family) and continue to discover the ups & downs of being on our own, in a strange city:-)

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I'm a thirty-something woman, married to the most wonderful man on Earth. He’s kind, understanding, generous & loving (and sorry girls - there's only one of him) My life, ofcourse, is dedicated to making HIS, miserable - just something us "women in their 30's" do!

Monday, January 31, 2022

Re-connecting with an old flame…

 It’s been a long long time since I lost touch… years really. It’s not like I’ve forgotten… more like I’ve moved on. 

But my husband insisted that I get in touch with an old love. 

Do I even want to? Do I want to read between the lines and imagine answers to unasked questions? Do I want to have my own private world where the boundaries between my imagination and real life start to blur? Do I want to get so involved again that I forget to eat and sleep... That I get carried away with my thoughts and immerse myself so completely that I lose a little bit of myself every night. Do I really want to play with fire?

And what kind of husband does that anyway? Especially when he knows that if I walk down that road again, he may risk losing me… 

But he insisted. And so I did.

Re-connect. Re-visit. Re-discover.

I took the plunge and even if he changes his mind now, there’s no turning back.  It’s too late… He should have thought it through before insisting.

I re-acquainted myself with my old love… my love for reading… my love for books… maybe even my love for writing…❤️

Wednesday, September 08, 2021

Tera mujh se hai pahle ka naata koi…

When you’re with me, I take you for granted… but when you’re away, I miss you every second. I miss your voice, your quiet gestures, your silent thoughtfulness, your boisterous laugh, your singing with the music, your arms around me, the love in your eyes… I miss it all. Please always know that I love you deeply and you mean the world to me. With you, I learnt about unconditional love. Our 2 years of close proximity have brought us closer. I feel more loved, and I love you more than ever. Thank you for bringing us together.. You are truly my soulmate Jeetu❤️

Monday, September 06, 2021

Musings

Between partners, kissing should be a way of life. An event in itself. Real kissing. On the lips. A kiss that invokes feeling. And love. And desire. A kiss that says it all - I love you, I want you, I care for you, I need you, I miss you, I think of you, take care of yourself - all. A kiss should say hi. And a kiss should say goodbye. Kissing should not just be about sex… it’s not just fore play. It’s two people who’s breath is mingling, who’s skin is touching. Two people who’re kissing because each time it feels like the first time again. Or it might be the last time for either of them. 

Sex is biological… Kisses are love ❤️ 

Friday, August 24, 2007

2006 – a roller coaster ride all the way….

Am back….!!! Maybe not “with a bang”, but back, nevertheless – it’s been almost 2 years, and I’m ashamed to say I barely missed updating the blog (ouch!!) Classic case of ‘too many things…too little time’ So, what happened during the hiatus? A quick look at “The Year That Was…”
January, 2006 – A month focused on wanting a baby, planning a baby, praying for a baby, trying for a baby – you get the picture, right? Some time was taken out for friends, game nights, colleagues… a fun & quiet month!
February, 2006 – Finally we made it to Delhi & Panipat, a visit long overdue, during which lots of bonding happened with family and old friends
March, 2006 – Highlight was our discovery on the 21st of March, of being pregnant!! Completely thrilled, and barely able to contain the news, this was a month of mixed emotions (huge dollops of happiness combined with a dash of apprehension, a sprinkle of wonder, and a pinch of fear). The little one was very, very welcome & we were grateful for being blessed!
April, 2006 – Celebrated our 2nd year anniversary with our dear baby causing havoc inside the tummy….he was already proving to be his own person by causing morning sickness in the evenings! What a kid!!!

May, 2006 – Our friends Rupak & Veepsa, welcomed their first-born, ‘Ve-Ru’ (aka Agastya) on the 2nd – naturally, they were thrilled! Closer to home, our maid abandoned us, causing lots of tension and worry. Evenings were spent washing utensils & me crying on Jeetu’s shoulder – poor guy!
June, 2006 – Another addition to the family – the brand new, shiny SWIFT joined ranks with the existing white old hag (!!) But more important, maternity jeans were finally bought, thus adding the final touch to the new “pregnant look”J Tummy started showing and I loved it!!! I insisted on wearing clothes that most obviously displayed my 'expectant' status, which embarrassed the hell out of Jeetu...hee, hee, hee!
July, 2006 – Baby darling made this month quite miserable by squeezing all my organs out of my body & sitting all comfy himself. Half the time I couldn't breathe, my ribcage felt like it was going to explode, my lungs had been squashed into tiny little nothings and the rest of me got similar treatment! On the upside, we got a maid shipped to us from Delhi – dear old Begum – oh, how eagerly we awaited her arrival!
August, 2006 – What a month! The Kohlis visited Hyd, which triggered a Bhasin re-union at our place - we had a complete houseful - Sanj came from Manila with husband & kids; Raghav came from Delhi with wife, kid AND maid; and Shiboo also came, but minus husband & kids! Raakhi was spent together after many years! Last, but not the least, Ships bought LOADS of stuff for baby, and we did up his cupboard, and suddenly he seemed more real than ever before!
September, 2006 – Mom Dad visited for a formal “godh bharaai” ceremony, which was fun! And finally, our Begum left us in tears for her hometown, with false & fervent promises of returning soon (which she never did)!
October, 2006 – This month was fraught with Gynaec nightmares, at the end of which we switched doctors and hospitals – finally moving our case to Apollo, thank God! And on the job front, Jeetu interviewed with Infy!
November, 2006 – Mumma & Papa-ji arrived from Panipat, while I started working from home. Our friends threw us a lovely baby shower, after which our son decided it was time to make his grand entry…………
"Making the decision to have a child is momentous.
It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body."
Aaryan.....our little bundle of joy!! He came into this world at 9:04 am, on November 16th, 2006 and turned our world upside down! He filled our lives with sleepless nights, new discoveries and crazy moments of heart stopping wonder! He made us laugh..... and sometimes, even cry…. And continues to do so. But most of all, he brought us a new excitement for our tomorrow's!!!!! More about this momentous event later….
December, 2006 – In the midst of dealing with parenthood, Jeetu decided to take on another challenge, and accepted an offer from Infosys. And while we dealt with the numerous feeds, and endless diapers, on the other side of the world, Sanj & Sunny moved to London, thus shattering all our dreams of visiting Manila with Baby Aaryan!!!! On the brighter side, our dear Nirmala arrived to help with the house and Aaryan, and turned out to be a god-send!

Monday, December 19, 2005

....hum bhi agar bachhe hote....duniya gaati "heppy burday to uuuu"


Husband’s birthday FINALLY came & went….whew!! Now I can breathe a sigh of relief! Why, you may ask??? I’ve had to keep my mouth shut about his “very very secret” birthday present for over 2 months now, and I was almost ready to explode with the effort!

But the event went off beautifully, even if I do say so, myself! The evening began with a dinner reservation at the ‘kebab-e-bahaar’ at the Taj Banjara, a delicious kebab platter followed by the most yummy black forest cake (Jeetu ACTUALLY managed to polish off the ENTIRE cake by himself by the next afternoon). Each gift was individually wrapped & presented with a flourish at night - he absolutely loved his gifts and the expression on his face was TOTALLY worth the effort:-) We celebrated D-day itself with a surprise party for both, Jeetu & Gaurav (who share a birthday) and both were given this long spiel (by their respective wives – myself & Preeti) that the “surprise” was for the other! It was good fun – and I was most proud of my cooking some of the khaana (without help, please note) Good, good fun!!!

But there were 2 things we both missed a LOT – our family, and our old friends!!! Kunnu, Rupak, Veepsa, Vicks, Charu, Rabs, Amit, Deepti.....where ARE you???:-(

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

Happy Birthday 2 (Two) youuuuuuuu!!!



Happy Birthday, Sanj & Sunny! Gosh, how often do husband-wife share a birthday?? Weird, huh? Well, that pretty much describes them both;-) Just kidding guys – hope you have a great day today!!

Things have been quiet around here. Nothing much to report in – Diwali just passed & life is getting back to normal. That brings us to our first Diwali in the new home – it was GORGEOUS! We started the diwali week with a taash session – called in some friends for a pot luck, and played cards into the wee hours of the morning – great fun. Diwali day itself was quiet – did a small havan, lit lots of diyas around the house, took some small gifts over to friends, had dinner with Preeti & Gaurav, and then came home to a movie and each other! Nice.

Monday, October 17, 2005

Weekend, oh weekend....where art thou???

Where have all the weekends gone? which god-awful black hole have they disappeared into? It hasn't been that long since Jeetu & i wondered what to do with our weekends....we would sit around & twiddle our thumbs...go for a movie and that was the highlight! And all of a sudden life has changed - our weekend begins Friday night & by the time Sunday evening rolls around, we're both looking forward to Monday morning, so that we can relax a bit! WOW!!!!

To be honest, this weekend really took the cake!!! to give you guys better perspective, let me just tell you that yesterday, Jeetu & i parked. In our car. At the side of a busy main road. In the middle of the city.

No. We are not the kind of couple who get a high from performing PDA - that's 'public display of affection' for the uninitiated (though let me take this oppportunity to tell you that can be a lot of fun, too;-) But we literally 'parked'. The car. And reclined our seats. And....slept. That's how tired we were.

From entertaining new neighbours with breakfast, to exploring possible cures from allergies through homoeopathic consultations, to visiting close family friens, to checking out furniture stores, to having dinner with friends, this Sunday was certainly NOT a-laugh-a-minute!!!! Despite the trauma of a busy & full life, all i can say is...

Thank God for the disappearance of all those "boring" weekends - cheers & welcome to the madness!